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What Does Being Natural Really Mean?

Hey Curlies! ❤

So, this post is all for those that like to read LOL. I say that because I notice many people really just skim through and don’t read the information.

But since you’re here!

I want to chat about what it means to be natural! The natural hair movement is HUGE. So with that, there is a TON of information out there, some being truth and others opinion. From observing and chatting with several women, I’ve learned that MANY are confused on what being natural is. I hear the phrase…”when I go natural..” a whole lot. So I thought I’d break it down!


What does being natural really mean?

– Being natural means you do not have any chemical on or in your hair to alter its natural curl pattern.

For example: Relaxers, perms and texturizers are chemicals applied to the hair to change a person’s natural hair pattern.

A relaxer is a chemical that straightens the hair and alters the natural hair texture. A perm is a chemical that curls straightened hair to make it curly. And a texturizer is a chemical that loosens tight curls.


you are still natural if you straighten your hair. Just because you wear your hair straightened does not mean you are not natural. You don’t have to rock a fro in order to be natural. AS long as the only thing that is straightening your texture is heat and not a chemical, honey you’re natural!


you are still natural if you wear a weave. If your NATURAL hair is braided underneath, why in the world wouldn’t you be natural? All a weave is a protective style. Honey you’re natural!


you are still natural if you dye your hair. It IS a chemical….and this is where it gets tricky. Dye for many naturals does not affect their curl pattern unless it is bleach and done unprofessionally. Dye CAN alter your curl pattern, but that does NOT mean that it is the same as a relaxer and a texturizer. You are not INTENTIONALLY trying to change your curl pattern to be something that it is not. You are simply enhancing your hair. And you can do that with dye or with henna.


Let’s consider a transitioner…

When a woman has a chemical on their hair such as the ones listed above, and chooses to go natural she either BIG chops where she will cut all of the chemical areas of her hair off or she will transition. Transitioning is simply growing your chemical and processed hair out by wearing styles like twists and bantu knots, braids outs and protective styles until the hair is all ONE texture..natural 🙂 This is a journey to being completely natural and an example of what “going natural” means…

Now, many have opinions about this.

Some think applying heat all the time doesn’t make you natural. Some think dyeing your hair doesn’t make you natural. Some think only wearing your hair in natural hairstyles makes you natural. It’s all on what you’ve researched and concluded…really. We talk about transitioning to being natural. One transitions from a relaxer to natural. From chemical to natural. It’s a process. Being natural takes a lot of work and commitment no matter the texture. Being natural, means incorporating a regimen. We have regimens because our hair needs attention to be able to thrive. Without a regimen our hair would be HORRENDOUS! LOL! Being natural means being YOU, embracing and wearing your kinks, coils and curls. Loving and caring for your hair the way God intended for it to be. There is NOTHING wrong with changing up a style by wearing a wig, a weave, some color…that’s fine! But, being natural is wearing your hair in it’s natural state, chemical HAIR ALTERING free. SO! If you believe coloring your hair falls into what I just said, then that is your opinion. I’ve colored my hair MANY times and my curls have NEVER been affected, and I believe I am a NATURALISTA! LOL!

Overall, being natural is being you….naturally 🙂


Do you agree or disagree?? What are your thoughts?

Until next time! XO!



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My 7 Tips For New Naturals!

Hey Curlies! ❤

Newly natural? Want to go natural but have no clue where to start? I got you! Read on…



Going natural can be a little intimidating and overwhelming for some and totally a no go for others. I get that, trust me. What does being “natural” mean? When your hair is natural you have no type of chemicals on it to alter your hair. Having a relaxer/perm/or texturizer means that you have a chemical on your hair altering your natural hair texture. Don’t worry, wearing a weave and having your natural hair braided underneath, still makes you natural. If you flat iron your hair, it also means that you are natural as long as their is no chemical on your hair. Understanding all of the techniques, terminology (a few I’ll mention below), the do’s and don’ts and the products can be very overwhelming…so, here are some basic tips to get you started on your journey!

1. Should I do a BC or a big chop?


If you had a relaxer, and are considering going natural, you do not have to do a big chop. If you did not have a relaxer, and are considering stopping heat and wearing your natural kinks, coils and curls, you do not have to do a big chop. This is your choice. Doing a big chop just moves the process of being completely natural and/or getting rid of damaged or straight ends faster than simply growing your hair out. You have the option to trim as desired until your damage is gone. Doing a big chop definitely gives you the option to “start over” if you will. If you have the guts, go for it! Rock your TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro) with grace hunty. LOL. BC’n can be very scary, because once it is done it is done. Kudos to all my naturals who have BC’d! Y’all are BRAVE and beautiful! 🙂

This was 2010 before I did a “semi” BC. I flatironed very often, my hair was thinning and my curls were lifeless.


What did I do?

– I have always been natural, meaning I have never had a relaxer. I’ve dyed, fried and bleached my hair throughout high school over 10 years ago. I experienced heat damage and chose to start “fresh” by doing a “half” BC. I chopped my BSL (Bra Strap Length) hair to my jaw line. Cutting my hair was THE best thing I did on the start of my natural hair journey. It gave my curls life and brought out a lot of creativity. The 3rd photo below shows how my loose curls started to tighten up due to cutting the damage off.




2. Can I still use heat if I want to go natural?

I recommend stopping ALL heat. Using heat doesn’t mean you’re not natural, BUT! If you want healthy and beautiful natural hair, stop the usage of heat. STOP GETTING RELAXERS/CHEMICALS. Try to go a minimum of three months without putting any heat on your hair. Then increase that to 6 months and so forth. Before you know it, it’ll be a year! Your hair will thank you!

What did I do?

– February 2011 I made the decision to do a challenge of no heat for one year after I cut my hair. I was the girl who straightened her hair every weekend, no heat protectant and sometimes no conditioning before hand. I did touch ups in between on my roots and edges, (I know TERRIBLE). So if I could do 1 year of no heat, so can you! There are so many natural hairstyles to do…bantu knot outs, braid outs, roller sets, cornrows, individuals, weaves, wigs, twist outs, 3 strand twist outs, twists, braids…and so on! Omg natural hair is so versatile and amazing! Here are some of the HEATLESS styles I did before cutting my hair.

Rollerset 2010

Rollerset 2010

Bantu knot outs, 2010.

Bantu knot outs, 2010.

Braid outs, 2010.

Braid outs, 2010.


3. What items do I need if I’m new to being natural?

The basic items you will need to get started on your natural journey:

  • a spray bottle (Water is your new bestie)
  • a wide tooth shower comb
  • a deep conditioner
  • a clarifying shampoo OR a natural alternative like Apple Cider Vinegar
  • a sulfate free shampoo
  • a moisturizing conditioner
  • a microfiber towel or 100% Cotton old t-shirt
  • an oil (like olive oil, coconut, jojoba etc. )
  • a satin/silk scarf and pillocase
  • a styler
  • a Denman brush (optional)

4. How do I learn about going natural?

YOUTUBE. There is SO much information on Youtube and blogs. That’s where I learned a lot. In 2010, I didn’t see many natural hair youtubers like there are now. But, the information was out there. Take the time to research via blogs and youtube and educate yourself. It’s a learning process especially if you were previously relaxed. Natural hair is all about trial and error!

Some natural Youtube natural hair gurus you should check out: Naptural85, MoKnowsHair, MahoganyCurls, Kimmaytube, GlamTwinz334, TarenGuy to name a few. I provided these specific women because every hair texture is different which will allow all beginners to find at least one of these women that have your hair type!

5. When do I wash my hair? When do I deep condition? and so forth…

You need to establish a hair regimen. Be CONSISTENT.

What do I do?

  • I co wash during the week if needed (Vo5, Suave, Aussie Moist, Trader Joe’s Nourish Spa)
  • I cleanse my scalp with a sulfate free shampoo once a week (Cantu Sulfate Free Shampoo, Trader Joes Nourish Spa Shampoo, Shea Moisture Shampoo)
  • I always detangle with conditioner in the shower
  • I use a clarifying shampoo once a month (Suave Clarifying Shampoo)
  • I deep condition 2 to 4 times a month, but ALWAYS after a shampoo (It varies with deep conditioners, find a product that says deep conditioner and try it out)
  • I pineapple at night ( grabbing all your hair into a high loose ponytail. It resembles a pineapple)
  • I ONLY sleep on a satin pillowcase
  • I use the LCO method to moisturize (Click here for my post on the LOC and LCO methods)
  •  I do protein treatments once every 6 to 8 weeks (Aphogee 2 Step Protein Treatment)
  • I trim as needed, I don’t follow a schedule

You can set days to make it easier on your schedule. For example, Wednesday wash day. Make that day where you take a few hours to focus on washing your hair, deep conditioning it, and styling it. Setting a day helps to make sure you keep your regimen consistent. Just like exercise, you have to be consistent to see results. With your hair, being consistent produces results.


6. What products should I start with?

This is tricky because everyone’s hair is different and reacts to products differently. You would want to establish your hair type and porosity levels. I have previous blog posts on these topics…click here to find your hair type and click here to find your porosity levels. Learning about these topics can help you maneuver through products and determine which will work for your hair. For example, your hair may not like silicones and or glycerin and if you are unaware of that and are purchasing products with those ingredients it’s not going to make your journey a good one. IT IS IMPORTANT TO LEARN YOUR PRODUCT’S INGREDIENTS!! Do not rely on what the label says, but turn the bottle around and see for yourself. Like I stated earlier, it’s about trial and error. Keep going because once you discover what works for you then you got it down!

Some lines to try:

  • Shea Moisture (Target, CVS, Walgreens, Walmart, Ok Beauty Supply, online)
  • Carol’s Daughter (Target, online)
  • Camille Rose Naturals (select Target locations, Wholefoods, online)
  • Crème Of Nature (Beauty Supplies, select CVS)
  • Giovanni (Select Targets, online, Wholefoods)
  • Organic Root Stimulator (Target, Beauty Supplies)

To name a few….


There are ways to cope with damaged hair and even repair some of it. Do NOT, I repeat…do NOT compare your hair to the next natural. Everyone is different and every hair texture grows and acts a certain way, differently. Be patient with your hair. Baby your hair because natural hair is dry and fragile. Don’t worry about growth, but be more concerned about the health of your hair. Once your hair is healthy and has a regular routine and regimen you will start to see your hair flourish! Natural hair is about trial and error, learning ingredients and seeing what works for you. Don’t give up!

After my cut, my hair still needed loads of love. I had heat damage in the back and my curls in the front were a mess. I got my hair cut while it was straight, which is why I had longer pieces in the front :/ (February, 2011)

I took care of my hair, educated myself and I now can finally say I love my hair. I still have hair goals and want thicker hair, but I’ve come a long way and you can too! (2014)



In a nutshell…

Stop getting relaxers and stop using heat. Start going without ANY heat for 3 months, then increase that to 6 months and so forth. Start with purchasing basic items listed above. Those items will make your journey a lot easier. Educate yourself via Youtube with naturals who KNOW what they’re talking about. Follow natural hair blogs. Happycurlhappygirl hint hint, LOL and do your research. Establish a regimen and be consistent. Have patience! And DONT GIVE UP!


Me, 2013.

Until next time Curlies! XO!