Topics Of Discussion

FOUR Steps I Did That Helped Repair My Damaged Hair!

Hey Curlies! ❤

There are four things I did during the time when my hair was at its worst, that helped it get to its best! I had damaged hair from dying and heat damage, mainly heat damage. My bra strap length hair was thinning and my curls were lifeless. I researched and learned about these steps to incorporate into my regimen to help repair the damage. However, not ALL damage can be repaired. The only way to get rid of severely damaged hair is to cut it off. Sucks, I know. I chose to do a semi big chop for my damage hair cutting my hair to my jaw and then did a year of no heat. BUT! Unless your hair is TERRIBLY damaged, you DO NOT HAVE TO DO A BIG CHOP. If your hair is slightly damaged it can be repaired by showing your hair MAJOR TLC such as these steps below. Here are the 3 things I did that got me to where I am now!

1. STOP ALL HEAT. Point, blank and the period.

I’m forreal.

2. Use A Reconstructor!

A reconstructor is a product that helps repair damage that’s been done from heat styling, relaxers, and chemicals. I had a ton of heat damage. I used these reconstructors to help with repairing my damage.

– Aphogee 2 Minute Reconstructor


– Dudley’s Hair Rebuilder


– Macadamia Deep Repair Masque


2. Protein Treatments!

Protein treatments are great for filling in gaps in the cuticle which helps to strengthen and repair hair. Protein treatments really helped my hair!

– Aphogee 2 Step Protein Treatment


– Nexxus Emergencee

– Mayo and Avocado


3. Deep Conditioning!

Deep conditioning is so essential to putting moisture back into our hair. Dry hair breaks, hair that is moisturized flourishes. Deep conditioning helps with repairing and strengthening damaged hair. Dry hair breaks, moisturized hair flourishes!

– Shea Moisture Superfruit 10-n-1 Renewal Mask


– Olive Oil Replenshing Pak


– Crème of Nature Deep Conditioner


– Pantene 2 Minute Moisture Masque

PLEASE make sure to follow the directions for a reconstructor, usually it’s done 2x’s a week. For protein treatments usually 1x a month or 1x every 6 weeks. And deep conditioning can be up to 2x’s a week. Incorporate these three steps and nurse your hair back to life.

It took me from 2011 until 2013/14 to get healthy hair and my curls to act right, if you will. I had trims and a shape/cut in between as well. So please, have patience…don’t give up!



Consistency & Patience!

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Until next time! XO!



Product Reviews

Dark and Lovely Au-Naturale-Anti-Breakage Super Softening Hair Butter: Product Review!

Hey Curlies! ❤


Here for another product review!

I won on a contest on Instragram from Dark and Lovely and Fro Girl Jinny, and this happened to be one out of the two that I won. Now! I’m going to be very honest…I was never a fan of Dark and Lovely’s products back in the day. Just didn’t appeal to me, so naturally…I never tried when they came out with their new Au Naturale line either. I would see the products from time to time and would talk myself out of trying because I just knew I wouldn’t be pleased. Little did I know I would fall in LOVE with this stuff!

Product Details:

Quench dry hair with a delectable, hydrating treat just for your breaking, transitioning hair. Hair feels nourished and supple without the build-up or greasy transfer. – For Dry, Damaged Hair – Moisturizes and reconstructs damaged hair for supple, shiny finish – No Drying Alcohol, No Mineral Oil, No Parabens, No Petrolatum – SoftSheen-Carson

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The consistency is THICK!

Thick like a heavy cream, and I love that!


The smell is AMAZE balls!


It blends well with my beloved Eco Styler gel! LIKE WHET? lol. It’s hard to find a product that won’t flake on you when you have other products in your hair. I decided to try on dirty hair to see if it would flake. I spritzed my hair with water and applied the Softening Butter and then Olive Oil to seal and let me tell you, it was amazing! So hydrating!


If you have DRY hair, this is perfect. The reason being is that the first ingredient is water and it is VERY thick, so it softens your hair and it hydrates. I would recommend wetting your hair before applying, and on clean hair.


a TAD greasy! Just a tad. It says “no greasy transfer” but I had a little. Not bad at all, but just a heads up for anyone who may be anti-grease.

Where to find: Rite Aid’s, CVS and online.

Would I purchase again?

Yes! Point, blank and the period!

Have you tried this product? Did you like it? What about Dark and Lovely’s other products?

Until next time! XO!



Topics Of Discussion

Preventing and Recovering From Heat Damage!

Hey Curlfriends! ❤


My hair flat ironed (2014)


The majority of us curlies have dealt with heat damage at some point in our hair journey. It sucks! Like I’ve stated many times, I was obsessed with my flat iron for many years. I made sure I pressed and flat ironed my hair weekly. Yes y’all, weekly. I would rarely condition my hair and never really used heat protectants. Because I didn’t wear my hair curly too often, I really didn’t see the damage I was doing. It wasn’t until I began learning about natural hair, realizing how I was damaging my hair  and made the decision to leave heat alone. I made the decision to do a mini BC (big chop) in 2011 to get rid of my ends and to start fresh. I started with bra strap length hair and had my beautician chop my hair to my jaw. From there, I made a commitment of no heat for one year. And it was one of the best things I ever did!


It’s a lot, so gon’head and get yourself a snack (lol) and read on…


How to prevent heat damage:

>> I cant stress enough (in almost every post) the importance of moisture! Before applying any heat you should always deep condition! Deep conditioning is so crucial ladies! Moisture is like a protectant against the heat. The dryer your hair the more likely it will be damaged!

>> Try to air dry your hair as much as you can before blow drying.. You can always stretch your hair by braiding or banding. Blow drying your hair while soaking wet affects it’s elasticity. You should never start blow drying your hair when it is soaking wet. If you don’t have the time to air dry or stretch your hair, try to towel dry your hair as much as you can before blow drying. When you blow dry make sure to always keep the blow dryer moving. Don’t let it sit in one part of your hair for too long.

>> Always, always alllllways use a heat protectant! So very important. Heat protectants are made to absorb the heat and help to seal the cuticles which ultimately protects the hair shaft.  I like to use TRESemme Thermal Creations Heat Tamer Spray, it always gets the job done for me. I spritz before blow drying and then again before flat ironing. Tresemme Heat Tamer Spray is so light weight it doesn’t weigh my hair down.

>> Do REGULAR protein treatments! Especially before straightening! Protein treatments are designed to fortify the hair preventing breakage, as well as correcting any issues with elasticity.  It’s so important to do protein treatments once every six weeks. Make sure you deep condititon after doing a protein treatment. I LOVE Aphogee 2 Step Protein Treatment. When using this product it’s so important to follow the directions carefully.

>> Select the right heat setting! If you have coarse hair, your hair can handle a higher heat. If you have thinner hair please be cognoscente of your flat iron’s heat settings.

For fine or damaged hair: 250-300 degrees
For medium/average hair: 300-350 degrees
For thick or coarse hair: 350-400 degrees


How to recover from heat damage:

I’m just gonna keep it all the way real…the only way that you can get rid of heat damage is to cut the damage off. No product is going to “get rid of” damage, once it is damaged… that is it. HOWEVER! There are things you can do to nurse your hair back to health which in turn can bring “some” curl back. I experienced a TON of heat damage and I have tried everything under the sun. Below I explain what worked for me.

  • It’s important to cut your heat OFF at least for 3 to 6 mos. Try 3 full months of no heat then increase. I went cold turkey for one year and it helped my hair DRAMATICALLY! Don’t fret, lol. With Youtube, blogs and IG there are a TON of heatless styles you can do during this time!
  • Deep condition hair every week with heat to restore moisture levels and repair damaged areas.
  • Use a reconstructor!  “A hair reconstructor is a specialized hair conditioner designed specifically to help severely damaged hair. What separates a hair reconstructor from a regular conditioner is its focus beyond simply moisturizing. Hair reconstructors fix breaks, cracks and weakened areas of the hair shaft with a combination of micro-proteins, macro-proteins and polymers”. (I used Aphogee Treatment for Damaged Hair and L’Oreal Reconstructor Conditioner $3.99).
  • After about 3-6 months of no heat and the steps mentioned above, you should start to see some reversion depending on the extent of damage. This is the time when you decide if you feel the need to trim and or cut these areas. Sometimes cutting your hair helps your hair to curl right back. You can begin trimming if you prefer not to chop the damage off. Trimming those areas little by little instead of doing a BC is still effective it just takes longer. I use a perm rod in certain areas where there is heat damage for my wash and go and you can’t even tell the difference! LOL!
  • When you make the transition back to using heat, try to limit your heat styling sessions to twice a month with no touch ups in between.



 Tip: It’s so important to focus on the elasticity of your hair, as this allows your hair to bounce back after styling. For an elasticity treatment I really like  ApHogee Curlific Texture Treatment $9.49. This products restores elasticity, helps eliminate hair loss and helps eliminate hair breaks and split ends.

My progression:

6 mos down with my no year of heat. Heat damage was improving. (08/2011)

6 mos down with my commitment of  no heat for one year. Heat damage was improving. (08/2011)

My bone straight hair (2014)

My bone straight hair (2014)

My hair (01/2014)

My hair (01/2014)

Don’t give up! Although you cannot get rid of damaged hair, these steps and my photos PROVE that you can nurse your hair back to health! I’m a witness 🙂

Until next time Curlies! XO!